Author :: Jess Marie, CVC, CAHC, INHC, RYT 🌻

As a Vedic Counselor specializing in codependency, I see this unconsciously motivated addiction as a complex psychological condition that can significantly impact one's ability to lead a fulfilling life.

What is Codependency?

Codependency is a behavioral pattern characterized by an excessive focus on others' needs & desires, often to the detriment of one's own well-Being. It's an unconsciously motivated addiction that works counter to the conscious effort needed for individuation & Self-realization.

At its core, codependency involves ::

1. Dysfunctional relationships with others or substances

2. Taking on the role of caretaker, enabler, or rescuer

3. Neglecting one's own needs & boundaries

4. Attachment to others at the expense of an authentic Self

From a Vedic perspective, codependency is seen as an imbalance in mind | body | spirit. It reflects a disturbance in the three doshas (bodily energies) that govern various aspects of one’s physical, mental, and emotional health.

The Codependency Cycle

The codependency cycle is a repetitive pattern of behavior that perpetuates the condition. It typically involves the following stages ::

1. Low Self-Esteem: The cycle often begins with low Self-worth, causing individuals to seek validation & approval from others.

2. People-Pleasing: To gain acceptance, codependents may prioritize others' needs over their own, often at great personal cost.

3. Boundary Issues: Unable to set healthy limits, codependents allow others to take advantage of them or overstep personal boundaries.

4. Reactivity: When their efforts don't yield the desired results, codependents may react with anger, hurt, or resentment.

5. Caretaking: To regain control, codependents often try to "fix" or rescue others, perpetuating the cycle of enabling behavior.

6. Denial: Many codependents struggle to recognize their patterns, denying the existence of a problem and resisting change.

7. Stress & Anxiety: The constant focus on others and neglect of Self leads to increased stress & anxiety.

8. Return to Low Self-Esteem: The cycle completes as stress and perceived failures reinforce feelings of low Self-worth.

Breaking the Codependency Cycle: A Vedic Approach

Breaking free from codependency requires a multifaceted approach that addresses the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of one's Being. Here are some strategies rooted in Vedic wisdom ::

• Develop Self-Awareness: Practice mindfulness & Self-reflection to recognize codependent patterns. Regular dhyana (meditation) can help cultivate a deeper understanding of your thoughts & behaviors.

• Balance the Doshas: Work with a qualified Vedic Professional (like me! 🌻) to identify your unique Ayurvedic constitution and create a plan to balance your doshas through diet, lifestyle, and herbal remedies.

• Establish Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say "no" and prioritize your own needs. This is crucial for breaking the cycle of Self-neglect.

• Practice Self-Care: Develop a regular self-care routine that nourishes your body, mind, and spirit. This might include Yoga asana (postures), pranayama (breathing exercises), or abhyanga (Ayurvedic Self-massage).

• Cultivate Self-Love: Engage in practices that promote Self-compassion & Self-acceptance. Affirmations & journaling can be powerful tools in this process.

• Seek Support: Work with a qualified Vedic Counselor specializing in codependency (like me! 🌻). Codependency group therapy or support groups can also provide valuable insights & encouragement.

• Develop Emotional Independence: Learn healthy ways to cope with stress and difficult emotions without relying on others for validation or comfort.

• Foster Authentic Relationships: As you heal, focus on building relationships based on mutual respect, open communication, and healthy boundaries.

• Spiritual Practice: Engage in spiritual practices that resonate with you, such as dhyana, chanting, or studying spiritual texts. This can help you connect with your true Self and find inner peace.

• Patience & Persistence: Be patient with yourself and celebrate small victories along the way.

The journey to overcome codependency is unique for each individual. As a Vedic Counselor, I'm here to support you in developing a personalized plan for healing & recovery, helping you connect with your true Self and live a more authentic, fulfilling life! By addressing codependency through this holistic Vedic approach, you can break free from the cycle and experience profound transformation. As you heal, you'll likely notice increased Self-awareness, enhanced Self-esteem, healthier relationships, and a greater sense of empowerment.

connect with your true self and live a more authentic life

As a Vedic Counselor, I can support you by developing a personalized health plan for healing & recovery, implementing healthy boundaries, mental health-based diet guidelines, Self-care, Self inquiry, spiritual practices, etc. so you can overcome your codependency and achieve greater health & well-Being on all levels!

I recommend working with a qualified Vedic Counselor (like me! 🌻) if you’re seeking support with codependency, as we as guidance through mental health challenges.